Pity to Waste a Good Crisis

“We don’t have to pretend not to have our opinions. Mostly we would rather be rich than poor, but also, it isn’t usually terrible to have lost our money. We can have a life in between those rather uninteresting discoveries. In between is where humans always are–that’s what we have to welcome, a story with an uncertain ending. And this condition is interesting if you inhabit it; it’s alive. If I’m facing something that I don’t know how to do, the not knowing is what is true and the resources I have, deeply ignorant as I am, will have to be enough.” John Tarrant: Pity To Waste A Good Crisis JANUARY 13, 2012


Realism is not always pretty. I am sitting in a local coffee shop because my neighborhood’s power is out. What can I do? It aggravated my husband and so he wanted to come here. I could just sit at home and complain, but it’s not just about me. I can deal with change; he can’t.

I was sitting in my chair getting annoyed with the situation and picked up my book. It was on a chapter about compassion. Don’t you hate that? Sometimes I feel like “Can’t it just once be about me?” Narcissism. Grrrrrrrr. But, as long as he lives, it will never be about me. I will have years alone. There is no need to hurry that.

So I blog in the air-conditioned coffee shop. There are worse things, such as grasping for certainty and security.

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About cdhoagpurple

I live in Michigan. I was Greek Orthodox (and previously Protestant), but now am more Buddhist than anything. I am single now (through the till-death-do-you-part clause of the marriage contract). My husband Barry was a good man and celebrated 30 years in AA. I am overly educated, with an MBA. My life felt terminally in-limbo while caring for a sick husband, but I am free now. I see all things as being in transition. Impermanence is the ultimate fact of life. Nothing remains the same, good or bad.

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