Aloneness and Interconnections
“Suffering will not go away unless you honestly accept that parting is the ultimate outcome of all meetings. Basic acceptance that pain is the nature of life enables you to lighten your mental worry and anxiety by reflecting on the impermanence of all things. You were born alone and will die alone. You will also have to learn to stop blaming others and be responsible of your experiences since they are result of your own making.” The Window Of Right View To Life, by Lama Choedak
How many of us truly understand this? When we are young, for someone to leave is called “abandonment.” As adults, it is just “life.”
I now operate on the basis of people “projects.” For example, I really helped a friend through law school and family drama. I plan on leaving Michigan. How much, or even if, I see her after I leave remains to be seen. I know that I will help others wherever I may live.
Being “alone” is subjective. Perhaps you may not have a support system in place, but we are still connected, whether we want to be or not. Being alone is the illusion. No one else can take responsibility for your life or death, but our actions always affect others, for good or ill. It is the denial of our interconnections that creates the social/political chaos and suffering we see all around us. We all have “issues” and how we handle them can inspire or warn others. What kind of legacy do you want to leave?