Acceptance of All
“Accept everything that arises: Accept your feelings, even the ones you wish you did not have. Accept your experiences, even the ones you hate. Don’t condemn yourself for having human flaws and failings. Learn to see all the phenomena in the mind as being perfectly natural and understandable. Try to exercise a disinterested acceptance at all times and with respect to everything you experience.”
Venerable Henepola Gunaratana: Chapter 4: Attitude
This is one of those “easy to say; hard to do” concepts. I don’t even have to do anything wrong to have shame triggered. It is so annoying. Sometimes I love being me and other times I hate my life. The problem with shame is that berating yourself for having it only entrenches it further. So there I am, trying to just simply accept feeling shameful and trying not to create further internal drama.
Emotional entanglement, I see now, is never positive. It just doesn’t help. The more wrapped up in something I become, the bigger the object I will have to let go of eventually and the longer it will take me to sort things out to get some clarity.