Accelerating Change

World Speeding Up


No matter how far off course I get, I am no longer stuck as I was in the past.

Many years ago, when I started business school, I decided that I wanted that period of my life to be one of going deeper within. I wanted to resolve as many issues as possible.

That was a fateful decision. Once a ball starts to roll, you may or may not have the ability to stop it. It’s a lot like becoming a minimalist, only with psychological issues. You start to clean up this one issue and another entire layer is revealed. Perhaps the process ends at some point, but I am not sure I will reach that point in this lifetime. Even when I cannot resolve an issue immediately, the spiritual/emotional excavation process has exposed the inner processes keeping a problem stuck in place.

I went off on a spiritual tangent lately because one of my Christian friends is upset about something going on at her (formerly our) church and the death of a really kind older lady there. It is hard to watch people I love suffer bad outcomes, but the whole thing made me see the hazards of making other people’s problems my own. Should I just abandon my Christian friends? I don’t know, but I do know that I am done making new ones.

There are many good people in this world of every imaginable (or no) religion. I want to be part of as many solutions as possible. The next time someone complains to me about anything, I plan on asking them what they plan on doing about it. People will probably stop telling me much of anything. I am so okay with that. I badly need a break at this point. I try to have empathy for everyone, but if it doesn’t lead to creative problem-solving trains of thought, then maybe I am contributing to the problem.

Every change that occurs is an opportunity for something positive. For example, my friend in Maryland is working for a family law firm that may be going under soon. She is worried, understandably. However, she is using the chaos in the office to learn about family law out there. She studies QDROs in her spare time. By expanding her skill set, she becomes more useful where she works and is becoming more valuable in the job market in general. I think that’s awesome.

It sounds awful, but I want to find ways to use the negative consequences of other people’s behavior to my advantage. I want to create positive outcomes for myself and others by using my willingness to change and learn new skills. There is so little I can change in this world, but change is a’coming—faster than ever.

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About cdhoagpurple

I live in Michigan. I was Greek Orthodox (and previously Protestant), but now am more Buddhist than anything. I am single now (through the till-death-do-you-part clause of the marriage contract). My husband Barry was a good man and celebrated 30 years in AA. I am overly educated, with an MBA. My life felt terminally in-limbo while caring for a sick husband, but I am free now. I see all things as being in transition. Impermanence is the ultimate fact of life. Nothing remains the same, good or bad.

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