Found an Answer
I didn’t know what to do about knowing Barry has nodules, not knowing if they are cancerous, him not wanting to know what’s going on, etc. I’ve decided to take zero initiative.
I was like, “OMG. What do I do? Do I call, write, or email the nurse practitioner to give some context? Do I push? Do I ignore things? What if they call? What if they don’t call?” I was going a little crazy.
I’ve decided that if the doctor’s office does not call us, I will not call them. I am allowing Barry and the medical providers to take the lead. I am taking Barry’s cue. I mention that I saw something on the ultrasound and he doesn’t even ask what I saw. Wow. There are two basic reasons people don’t ask questions: 1. They don’t want to know the answer, or 2. They already know the answer. I believe Barry is consciously acting on level 1 and subconsciously acting on level 2. I will allow things to progress on their own, whatever that means. It’s hard to just sit back and watch, but I don’t want to violate Barry’s free will.
No matter what the problem is, at least part of the solution seems to be letting go. Funny how that works. “Resistance is futile.”