We Have Solutions Now

I am so excited and frustrated all at once.

I have been doing a lot of work on myself. My shrink recommended the “Crappy Childhood Fairy.” I am taking a class from her. The Fairy recommended Pete Walker’s “Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving.” OMG. The book addresses so many issues I have had in my life. This book did not exist when I was a young adult. And I desperately needed it. I now understand my shame attacks as flashbacks from a pre-verbal time in my life. This book led to his other book “The Tao of Fully Feeling.” Learning about CPTSD led to Gabor Mate’s “When the Body Says No.” It’s not about blame; it’s about responsibility–the ability to respond. Mate even has a book about addiction: “In The Land of Hungry Ghosts.”

I am now absolutely convinced that there are solutions for whatever problems anyone has anymore. Suffering indefinitely is unnecessary. There were no solutions when I was growing up in a small town for my family’s dysfunction. We didn’t know why some people got this thing or that or have any answers. If you were miserable, too damn bad. Who could blame some people for alcoholism or addiction, when misery was the only seeming alternative?

What I love about the Fairy is that she treats CPTSD, not as a psychological issue, but as a neurological one. “Brain dysregulation” is what she seeks to resolve, not some weird subconscious issue you have no power over today. It’s not that there are no psychological issues to be resolved, only that it is a million times easier to deal with them once you start to heal your nervous system. We know this now. We knew none of this when I was a kid.

It’s just such a different world today. On the one hand, everything seems to be unraveling. On the other hand, we know how to knit things back together in such a way that the most people possible can benefit.

About cdhoagpurple

I live in Michigan. I was Greek Orthodox (and previously Protestant), but now am more Buddhist than anything. I am single now (through the till-death-do-you-part clause of the marriage contract). My husband Barry was a good man and celebrated 30 years in AA. I am overly educated, with an MBA. My life felt terminally in-limbo while caring for a sick husband, but I am free now. I see all things as being in transition. Impermanence is the ultimate fact of life. Nothing remains the same, good or bad.

One response to “We Have Solutions Now”

  1. Ninasusan says :

    Intrigued about cptsd! I’ve been thinking about going back to therapist for a few sessions…every now and the I feel like I have one foot nailed to the floor and the other one running in circles!

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: