I have been frustrated a long time. As I have been doing healing work, I have read some wonderful authors, like Gabor Mate and Pete Walker. I have also been watching a lot of videos by The Crappy Childhood Fairy and Mate. The Fairy is not for everyone. She has videos with titles like “Three things you are doing to piss everyone off.” A little blunt, but she provides tips and tools for dealing with brain dysregulation. She doesn’t just say, “You have a problem. There is no solution. Too bad.”

Mate is phenomenal. He describes addiction as a solution, not a problem. What emotional pain does the addiction alleviate? That is the issue. He also wrote a book on ADHD, Scattered, that is amazing. This man is a genius, by my definition: he takes complex psychological concepts and makes them obvious to the point where you say, “Duh! How did nobody see that?” Scattered upsets me because it was published over twenty years ago. And he connects the dots between ADHD and addiction. Are you serious? We’ve known about the connection since the 90s?!

As a culture, all we ever seem to do is deal with symptoms. There is a commercial on TV for some drug for “dry-eye disease.” Is that even a thing? Don’t get me wrong. I think it’s great there is a treatment for annoyingly chronic dry eyes. It does sound painful, but I do wonder what the actual underlying condition is.

Stay with me. Imagine if someone woke up every morning with a hangover. They had a headache and really dry mouth every day. Now imagine if they went to their doctor and said, “Doc, I have a horribly dry mouth every morning. Is there anything you can give me for that?” Then the doctor says, “Ohhhh! You have dry-mouth disease. Here’s a new drug big pharma cooked up especially for you.” He writes a prescription and the patient says, “Oh, by the way, I also have headaches every morning. Can you help me with that?” You can see where this is going. Any half-wit who knows the patient could tell the physician, “This guy is an alcoholic. How dumb are you? Or are you just getting kickbacks from the drug companies?”

What is the point? Look deeper. Don’t just treat the symptoms. The cure to “dry-mouth disease” is sobriety. Once the person is sober, then the original issues and pain can be dealt with more openly and honestly. Or is there simply no profit in that?

About cdhoagpurple

I live in Michigan. I was Greek Orthodox (and previously Protestant), but now am more Buddhist than anything. I am single now (through the till-death-do-you-part clause of the marriage contract). My husband Barry was a good man and celebrated 30 years in AA. I am overly educated, with an MBA. My life felt terminally in-limbo while caring for a sick husband, but I am free now. I see all things as being in transition. Impermanence is the ultimate fact of life. Nothing remains the same, good or bad.

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