The Opposite of Intuition

I would like to have intuition. I would like to just, somehow, know things. I want access to those invisible realms of information. Thus far, I have been unsuccessful.

However, I do have something else: deductive reasoning. I have always been very logical. Also, as I have gotten older, I have an increasing yardstick for what is normal. I give my psychoanalyst credit for some of it. I actually go to her and ask, “What would a normal, healthy person (complete with boundaries and self-esteem) do in this situation?”

Remember “Sesame Street”? The tune goes, “One of these things is not like the other…” You look for what is different or missing. You don’t need intuition, just observational skills. I always had those.

I’ll give an example. When I was about twenty, I was still living with my parents. One day, my brother Bob came into Michigan. He was off with friends. I asked my mother, “Does Bob own that big pick-up truck?” “Oh, no, he’s making big payments on it.” That meant he had made little to no down payment on it. “Do Bob and Jan own where they live?” “No, they pay a lot of rent.” I knew how much money he made. How on Earth would I know that? He bragged about it! He made $25/hour straight time with plenty of overtime and his wife made the same. Between the two of them, they were probably pushing six figures–and living hand-to-mouth like working-class stiffs. I wondered where the money was going. I knew he liked to play poker and lived near St. Louis. Maybe he was gambling. Or doing drugs, which seemed like a possibility. I did not know where the money was going, but pure logic dictated that it was going somewhere. About six months later, he got caught with the cocaine. Ma thought she was creating sympathy for Bob. Not so much. Logic told me that something was not right. When there is a disagreement between my mother and logic, always, always, always go with logic. Delusion versus reality: which one to choose. Pick carefully.

As time has gone on, I now look at situations and ask myself, “Is there something missing in this picture? Is someone missing? Is there an obvious topic of conversation not being brought up?” I have learned to listen to what people say and do not say, which is often more important and relevant than what they do say. I have learned that the only questions worth asking are the ones likely to piss people off. If no one can get offended by the question, its answer is likely not relevant. When you ask the right questions, people get very upset. That’s when you know you have nailed it. Ding ding ding.

Notice that logic does not require access to alternate dimensions. I do not need supernatural access to the intuitive realm. I would still like to develop intuition. Don’t get me wrong. But I have found alternative means of reaching conclusions out of sheer necessity. I know how to make do with simple observation and simple common sense.

About cdhoagpurple

I live in Michigan. I was Greek Orthodox (and previously Protestant), but now am more Buddhist than anything. I am single now (through the till-death-do-you-part clause of the marriage contract). My husband Barry was a good man and celebrated 30 years in AA. I am overly educated, with an MBA. My life felt terminally in-limbo while caring for a sick husband, but I am free now. I see all things as being in transition. Impermanence is the ultimate fact of life. Nothing remains the same, good or bad.

One response to “The Opposite of Intuition”

  1. Ninasusan says :

    Yep. I get it. Never thought about it in terms of the missing piece or perhaps I did. I always thought it was I could look at the facts without attaching an emotion or an outcome and see the big picture.

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