“True mastery can be gained
by letting things go their own way.
It can’t be gained by interfering.” Tao Te Ching, chapter 48, Stephen Mitchell translation

Non-interference (wu wei) is a big theme in the Tao Te Ching. Letting go of everything after you have done what you can in as harmonious manner as possible.

Easier said than done. It is hard to watch things go their own way when you see the train coming that will run over your friends and family. When I was younger and my brothers did drugs and alcohol, at first I made a lot of noise, trying to warn my parents. I was not taken seriously. I gave up. Eventually, they started experiencing consequences for their actions, but, dang, it took long enough!

I am determined to never be stuck again. The only way to not be stuck is to let go of anything that isn’t moving. If something or someone is determined to remain where they are, as they are, all I can do is let go and wish them well. My interference only rebounds back upon myself. My primary fidelity is to dynamic reality, not other people’s ideologies.

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About cdhoagpurple

I live in Michigan. I was Greek Orthodox (and previously Protestant), but now am more Buddhist than anything. I am single now (through the till-death-do-you-part clause of the marriage contract). My husband Barry was a good man and celebrated 30 years in AA. I am overly educated, with an MBA. My life felt terminally in-limbo while caring for a sick husband, but I am free now. I see all things as being in transition. Impermanence is the ultimate fact of life. Nothing remains the same, good or bad.

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